by the way i live in an underdeveloped nation where Personal development is considered waste of time. The coach will then begin promising things that she can’t possibly deliver. It is a trail of techniques taken from the core schools of psychology which are proven through extensive university research – see Encyclopedia of NLP by Dilts and Delozier for the sources of all the main NLP techniques. I would consider youtube videos, articles, and books that I read as productive because they were all helping me become a better business owner/leader/salesmen/blah/blah/blah. Not only that you are a gifted writer who I can see truly is responding from the heart. I’m always left with a dirty taste in my mouth when I see a so called coach or PD guru going through the motions of disempowering someone first in order get that up-sell. Sorry to be so nit picky on you , Hahaha, whoops. Thank you. i will tell you my story . The endless up-sells, wrapped in manipulative language, the endless promises of an easy to achieve happy future and blah blah blah…. Turns out he hadn’t tested correctly the first time; there was indeed lead paint everywhere. One of my biggest issues with Life Coaches is that they are not regulated by any ethical standards or background investigation and can do significant damage to others. I think change is something we do by stealth. I know the techniques in their books are touted as magical, which is reason to be skeptical. Interesting question about your friend. Even I feel it’s a sham now. !” bullshit. Almost every area of my life has been improved by it. Interestingly, technocratic societies like mine are starting to catch up with the indigenous cultures in this regard, and the MAPs and other studies are validating the utility of psychotropic substances in therapy and healing. It’s appalling. My husband and daughter we don’t think do and are doing pretty good. Robbins basically sells his personality and world view. Well said Jason, I feel the same about Tony Robbins and others of his ilk. I had an okay time learned a few things I didn’t know, but overall did not get enough to justify the money. I also think he’s completely failed to understand the limits of his gifts. Additionally, we weren’t even offered support for how to detox, other than the suggestion of purchasing our own $350/mo per person detox kit from Quicksilver Scientific. And thanks, I hope I’m an effective coach too. I just wish he’d reel himself in. There is A LOT of good to be had in the personal development industry, and it can make a huge difference in people’s lives. […]. UPW is 3.5 days from 8am to … Hi Jason! Maybe we were alone in this, but we were in it together and both of us are extremely stubborn. And we can’t detox if we’re continually being exposed through the air we breathe, and the food we eat. Not everyone gives themselves the Grace they deserve. He does use the principles of NAC (Neuro associative conditioning) to help people rewire their brain. I just downloaded a PDF out of interest on 15 great coaching strategies for stuck coaches and was amazed how basic and entry level they were. Now, it’s not like this house was dirty and in a “bad” part of town…but it is old, and anything could have happened there since 1922. After years of searching for solutions, she decided her life wasn’t worth living. I don’t quite share your disdain for Tony Robbins – I watched I Am Not Your Guru and felt serious respect for someone who is able to inspire quite so many people and give previously-suicidal people reasons to carry on living. Of course, I’ll use my list at some point. An example is about lasting change can’t happen in an “instant” or quickly. Mercury Poisoning can cause mental changes including mood swings and memory loss. I am someone who both learned it and experienced it and it was a tool that really helped me transform my life~ so it’s not always a manipulative tool to reprogram the mind of the self or others. It’s all too easy to ‘blame’ others rather than looking at helping people take more personal responsibility for their choices and decisions. My dearest friend is an avid fan of his and all forms of life coaching, including NLP, and has been a follower and practiser for a number of years. I’ve seen this over and over in the health and wellness industry with “professionals” who are actually suffering from their own body dysmorphia, eating disorders, and poor self-worth. But is it wrong for me to critique an industry that I also work in? I’m about to tell you the most important findings, so hang in there with me! The ONLY thing I do in a coaching assignment is to increase the pace with which the coachee comes to the insights as to the best way to go forward. Thank you for this comment. Soon after my arrival in Europe I faced many challenges mainly on self confidence. I couldn’t quite put my finger on it, but I started to get a really sore taste for the whole self-help, motivational coach industry. We all want the easiest path to success possible. I have my own concerns re residual drugs from two hip replacements w*in the past 8mo, which I had put off for too long, suffering, B4 I found out about a fantastic device (deltamotion hip), used in India, and almost nowhere else ! I am a coach, a branding strategist for women business owners and even I have a love/hate relationship with the industry. You know why? We all want the easiest path to success possible. His levels were reportedly 10 times the average for Americans. does chanting the lotus sutra give you results great stick to it. There is no known safe level to have in our bodies. The full life of these forms of mercury in human blood is somewhere around 1-3 weeks; meaning if the exposure has stopped then all the mercury should be out of the blood within that timeframe; again, to be either eliminated or stored in fat or organs. I’m glad you think that there is no need to deal with more suffering than is absolutely necessary. After logging in you can close it and return to this page. As that distrust built, Tony Robbins charisma and charm turned far more off-putting than alluring, despite some of his ideas being good advice. This was years ago I hasten to add and taught me a great deal about being careful what and how you practice! I was surprised when he attached his name to a company in my industry that scammed thousands of people with fake product. I know there are good doctors out there. I sense a “guilty until proven innocent” attitude rather than a more neutral approach. You have managed to put into words why I have always felt uncomfortable with Tony Robbins and life coaching in general. G-d Bless, namaste… ciao ! Write about five things you are happy with. And not breathing (generally considered a bad thing) will save your life when your head is under water. I asked Stefan to test the house paint again. I’m still a fan. No, thank you. It has been a journey of 6 years since went into self help and I became a life coach in meantime. Yet I struggle with people denouncing the man and his work before they have experienced it in person. I didn’t need therapy or a life coach or motivational speaker. Hi – thanks so much for writing this article. As an employee the workplace goals and priorities prefer money before effect, and as an independent psychologist it has been impossible for me, to attract clients, without the use of marketing tricks and subtle manipulations (much like this fine Article could be categorized as), so although I agree with almost everything you have written, it just seems that using the retoric of the BS coaches you have written about, is the way to make a living as a psychologist. I’ve also heard good things about the Hoffman Process, but haven’t done it myself. Keep sharing. However I can state with certainty that using NLP techniques, I myself and a lot of my clients have had amazing results. Jacquelyn – I so appreciate this comment, thank you. The “clipped” version does not give nearly enough information and feels way to “fast” – AND IT IS. When I was 12 years old I got mugged by these 2 black kids. Jason, you hit the nail on the head. Thanks for the article, it was actually incredibly reassuring. After that, I never again practiced it and I never will. Thank you for promoting some lively discussion, your thoughts and opinions were interesting. Tune into YOUR guidance and let that tell you who’s right to work with and when. If he ever comes to the UK I’d love to go and see one of his seminars purely so I can analyse his ass. But was willing to be open minded and the blog title did its job intriguing me to read more. My symptoms, according to this doctor, definitely indicate household toxicity, but in his opinion may or may not be from the mercury. We soon found out that anything over 5ug/L has to be reported to the government (by the testing lab). Your line, “I’m sober myself, have faced trauma, but I am not going to write about it, jump around, and make up a bunch of “programs” for the purpose of monetizing.” nearly made me spit out my coffee. Of course, there has to be a starting point but then you have to choose your “new” life every day. I hate throwing up. I love you that you wrote what you wrote, because it coming from your heart; I know that. It’s a clever (and I think useful) mashup of these things, a kind of hybrid of some of the best ideas. I literally haven’t taken a new client in six months. I totally run the risk of being seen as insincere when I knowingly take on a sacred cow. She even has the audacity to have “VIP” tickets. As a trainer/speaker/coach I think it’s important that you highlight the pitfalls of those hugely charismatic individuals who can prey on others unethically. I was living a life that I was responsible for. Not only is it about the coaching bit that needs to be brought out of the shadows, but the more important part is that people need to understand that life is not easy, and quick-fixes don’t work. I wish I had been in existence years ago. But I love my attrition rate. Very well articulated and presented. I think it will help people. People like you make me smile. Welcome to the world of Tony Robbins. If I read one more coach talk about their 7 figure income which they attained through “hustle”…hustle and coaching DO NOT go together. If we try to run from it or pretend it’s inessential, we betray our true nature. As Tony has shared before with his fans, he’s been dealing with mercury poisoning. And, I think you said that. Intrigued by TR technique, I looked up his Bio, to find he is on wife number three. See more ideas about tony robbins, tony robbins quotes, robbins. ImmunoBoost-C™ helps combat illness before it strikes. He teaches people to connect with their confidence and to, lean into some of the harder conversations in their lives. So what of kindness, what of the true angels in life who would go the extra mile. No-one gets to the top without sacrifice, a lot of hard work & personal development. I’m currently in the Robbins/Madanes core 100 life coach training. It doesn’t have to be a stadium of rocking out mania (although it was fun) just something mind provoking and stimulating. Before those things happened I could easily have said they were impossible. As you explain change is hard work and takes time, true, but that is not the point. Like you say: Just pick a coach who has great testimonials and ask him to support you with the things where he got results in the past. The best advice is free. What a waste. The only other listed sources of exposure are things like breaking a CFL lightbulb and not cleaning it up properly, swallowing the mercury in an old thermometer, and some obscure sources like face whitening cream (I like my Italian skin tone thank you), fungicides, jewelry from Mexico or working in an industrial factory that uses mercury to produce its products (such as CFL lightbulbs). And thanks for the kind words, Willow. I think it’s about building a life you love, regardless of the scale. Though it seemed ridiculous, I tried it for a while. If a few paths have the same message, and it works to help me feel more stable, centered, and aware, great! that I resonate strongly with many things you say here not just about Tony Robbins, but the wider coaching industry too. I have a huge tool kit to help due to my training and a high ethical bar due to my license. I realized how serious I had been taking myself and the impact it was having on others, but also the toll it was taking on me mentally. This is probably just a lifetime build-up of mercury from all sources.”. And yes tell that lady to call 3 men uncles when one was really checking her out ..?? And good catch on the spelling error. The term is brain washed. They peppered me with questions, clearly surprise by my call, and asked if Stefan also had high levels. I wish people would be more honest about where they are in life. As anticipated the high wore off in a couple months. In reality, I was actually avoiding the tough activities like sales calls or marketing campaigns and wasted an entire year of growth. Cloe Madanes is a well respected psychologist who teams up with Robbins in this training. If you think Tony Robbins is a Con Artist, what do you think about Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Albert Einstein, Nelson Mandela, Mother Teresa…You’ve got to ask yourself this question. Its almost a double edge sword becoming that popular because in order to keep drawing the big crowds willing to paypremium prices for a ticket the focus becomes less about delivering value and more about putting on a show like having some random girl in the audience (who knows if she is really random or planted there..that is how skeptical I am) call to break up with her boyfriend and have people walk on fire to prove their self worth. I have been suspicious something has been off for about 2 1/2 years – energy, concentration, lots of sublte things, and vitality. As a therapist, I find his techniques highly shaming and quite unethical. The part of that film that scared me was when his moterators came back with details on people from the small group break outs. Spot on buddy…BOOM! I work as a coach on business processes and “modern management”. Making money from a place of desperation must have some interesting side effects. There’s one self-help author/speaker who is hosting a book signing here in a couple of weeks… and you need to pay to go! When she was younger, she battled with. You are a clown. I believe these kind of change do happen and especially when we have a major event in our lives. I was avoiding it for days, but my body won. So any good advice can become bad advice for a particular person or situation. When I was done sharing, the lady next to me jokingly shooked my arm and said “Now give me all your money!” We all laughed and my emotional charge instantly disappeared. I would suggest though that a high attrition rate for a psychotherapist is not automatically a good sign and this puts the idea of a quick fix out there. Ahhhhhhhh I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this!!! What makes it hard for a lot of people to digest is that he also does legit good with his work and life, it’s just so infused with shit that. Even do not take Tony Robbins for granted! My hope is to deliver on New Year’s day! Jason, I’m grateful for your article because I was in a stuck place of getting myself out there as a coach since I became a life coach 2 months ago. But, i’m corious, what are your ways of works which make a difference? It can be used to do good or harm. -that you2 are learning, to be beacons for the test if us !! At worst NLP is copied from psychological interventions and is often used by unqualified individuals who do not understand it. Good stuff Lucy – for the right person, working with a good therapist and a good life coach at the same time can be a lethally effective combination. I can’t help but feel sad though… Wanting to bring more hope and faith into the picture, not less. This is very well written. Life coaches and gurus can be of great utility, as long as we harness them to move forward, and don’t give our power over to them, or at least not for long. The speaker proceeds to tell her dark secret. I also read an article about psychologists and other counselors who, because they crossed lines with patients, then go on to become “coaches,” which is a filed with no oversight or accountability. So I’d hate to judge someone on a couple of edited clips, and I too would not like to be judged on isolated incidents in the whole canvas of life. I have 30 years of experience as a registered health care provider, have a masters degree in leadership, and have done a lot of very high quality personal and spiritual development work, including NLP training which has been very beneficial for me and for people I have helped with those tools. Sarah Berger @sarahelizberger. We have a broken system. My primary objective since getting my test results back and seeing that number – 15ug/L – staring back at me has been: find the source. | Mobility Mastery, http://www.conservationmagazine.org/2016/07/pigeons-may-help-track-childrens-risk-lead-poisoning/, https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3745608/. It must have greatly interrupted my pattern. It’s worth considering that in judging how effective Tony Robbins interventions were in the documentary that the best people to report on that are those that underwent the interventions rather than those who are outside observers of it. 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